Two factors that affect cheating in marriage, according to science
And this is not Betty from work and not Veronica from next door.
When the treason hangs over the marriage, the temptation is to blame objective factors, not tied to you. For example: “We have been married for 19 years, and for the last 16 years I have been sleeping on a cot in the bathroom”; “My mother’s wife moved to us, and now I don’t want to return home”; “My wife’s fitness instructor moved to us, and now it’s painful for me to return home.”
As scientists at the University of Florida have found out, cheating depends on two factors that you are able to manage.
In a study published in the Journal of Personal and Social Psychology, scientists talked about the conclusions made after studying personal data from 233 married couples.
Moreover, scientists have been collecting data for three and a half years. During this time, some couples managed to divorce, some cooled to each other, others, on the contrary, were imbued with even greater mutual sympathy.
So, the first factor that scientists have identified is called “divert attention”. The subjects were shown photographs of attractive people of the opposite sex. It turned out that those respondents who quickly looked away from photographs, refusing even the possibility of temptation, were more faithful in marriage.
That is, if you want to live a long life next to one person, try not to stare at strangers. Do not be tempted.
The second factor - “depreciation of the alternative” - was calculated using the same pictures of attractive people. Only this time, the study participants were not just shown photographs of beauties, they were shown two photos at once, while one depicted a very beautiful girl and the other completely unremarkable. Respondents were asked to rate the visual appeal of the characters in the photo.
So, those who claimed that a very beautiful girl was “so-so,” or put her on the same level of attractiveness as unremarkable, these holy people can count on a long and strong marriage. That is, they immediately depreciate the one who could lead them to cheat.
Someone will say that both factors are hypocrisy. Maybe. But they will help someone who decided that the second wedding will not be reasonable.
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